Making a change can do wonders

Do you feel comfortable in your current lifestyle? Give yourself some time to think about anything that's making you uncomfortable. It could be:

Friends

Families

Relationships

Stress 

School

Appearance 

Hobbies 

Work 

Many things contribute to how we feel such as confidence. The only way to know if you're happy is that you don't experience insecurity. List down anything that makes you feel free and happy. Once you've got that, you can track down the negativity in your lifestyle. 

For each point you've taken, think about anything that's disrupting them. I know it's horrible just thinking about, but no worries. For each interruption, it's good to make a change. Let say that your current relationship is corrupting who you are. That my friend must be avoided at all cost. Find a solution is worth it like talking to your partner about how you guys treat each other or cutting all ties with him. There's many solutions to all the problems you're experiencing. All it takes are perseverance and commitments. 

Sometimes, you may feel like not wanting to change the current lifestyle that's already killing you. They can be second-thoughts like,

"He's important in my life." 

"I want to keep it till the end." 

"I don't want to change at all." 

"I'm not used to making a change." 

"I need this person to help me though." 

etc...

But think about it guys. Would you want to keep living a life that's suffocating you? Even that little change probably wouldn't kill you so much. Even so, it should be relieving to be done with the negativity that's lowering your happiness. 

Life's too short to keep living in the negativity. Happiness is the key to better opportunities. Nobody wants to die with regrets and sins. We should all spread the joy and give more than to receive.

*So sorry I haven't posted for a long time. I was quite sick these few weeks and been so busy with school and extracurricular activities. But I do try to manage my time in making these posts for you guys. Anyways, thank you again for understanding!*

XOXO

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Letting go of connections

It's a real pain in the ass when your special someone leaves you behind. For whatever reason, we all know that we should move on. I've learn that the hard way, but in reality I'm able to become stronger from letting go. 

At some point of your life, you find this person who makes you feel good on the inside. You want to cherish that person and stay with them forever. But sometimes they can't always be with you either from death, separation, disagreements, and so on. We cry tremendously and start having negative thoughts about why are they gone. To be honest it's a fine case that we can learn as a lesson. 

Tell yourself why the two of you guys have left. It may be painful to know what was the problem, but we can understand our happiness at a greater extent. Learn that cutting all connections with them was a better option because you'll have better moments with others you'll meet in the future. And as you move forward, remember what was it that broke the relationship and apply it next time. Mistakes are meant to be life lessons. 

I remember I was tied down by my friend who I cherish my life with. We were like besties until it went downhill when her personality changed and she ditch me for new friends. I was devastated that I felt so lonely and didn't have anyone. Eventually, I wiped my tears and begin to make relationships with other people who made me laugh. Then, I realize how being tied down by someone who didn't give me complete happiness wouldn't make me happier than now. After realizing this, I felt so free from holding onto someone for so long. I started getting better and able to grasp my smile back. 

Everyone is totally different. I'm not sure what's their situation, but if we could relate then I would say that it's okay to let go of your relationship. As time moves forward, we'll experience better moments with many more people. I know it hurts enough that you want to kill yourself, but don't worry it's only the beginning. Be glad we're humans that we can experience all these emotions. Without it, I wouldn't even talk about this topic with you guys. Stay strong beautiful!

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How's my life been?

Ever since school started (two months ago lol), I've been preoccupied with so much work and studying. But that's pretty normal for any student growing up. I've procrastinated too much lately that it's affecting my sleep. Even so, I have to sleep in class just for to make up for the lost of sleep. But since it's a new season, I'm determined to finish all my workload by the end of this week because that's when all grades are due. 

Next thing that's been a biggie for me is balancing out my blogging time. At first, I knew it could be hectic trying to make the deadline for my posts. Not only does this affect my blog, but I wasn't able to keep updated with my favorite blogs. The only times I'm able to interact with other bloggers are during my weekend which would probably be on Saturday. The problem is not only because I don't have the time, but I have no motivation. You know that feeling when you're a bit lazy and don't seem to wanna finish your task? Well, I'm a victim of that as well. Don't worry, as promised, I'm doing my best to manage my time more wisely for you guys to stay connected with me as much as possible. 

Oh! Another thing I want to share you guys is the shift of season. I can't believe autumn has finally begin that I'm so excited for the colder weather, fun holidays, colored leaves, my birthday, and the scent of baked goods. So ready to kick in with my thigh socks and big sweaters. I mean who can resist this comfy attire? Seriously, I can't wait to fulfill my bucket list knowing it's going to be spectacular. I think I might show you guys my ootd for this fall if you like. But really, do you guys have any plans for autumn? 

Thanks for hearing me out. I haven't had a personal talk like this for awhile. I probably start making these because it really gets off your chest. I hope y'all understand my situation right now and do support me as I'm doing my very best for you guys. If you have any post suggestions for this season, please tell me! I'll try to arrange it. 

XOXO

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10 benefits of sleep

Sleep is essential to our lifestyle. We get fuel to start the day and relax without disturbance. We all neglect this fact as we are getting busier, but here are 10 tips why sleeping is beneficial. 

1) Improving skin

You know why sleeping beauty is radiantly gorgeous? Well the answer is getting some rest. Without proper sleep, your skin will look tired which may cause acne and dark circles. So be sure you get your full 8 hrs of sleep and take naps if you need to. 

2) Staying immune

Studies have shown that getting insufficient amount of sleep can result in increasing chances of illness such as heart disease, common cold, and diabetes. So why take a break from electronics instead of risking you life. 

3) Protecting your love life

This sounds crazy, but don't you have someone or yourself feeling tired to go on dates or spending time together? Well this is the cause of lack of sleep. You want to keep your love ones so be sure you have enough sleep to fuel your happiness with the one you desire. 

4) Being safe outdoors

Drowsy people have the tendency to get into accidents such as car crashes. Getting hurt and risking your life from lack of sleep sounds useless. Do try your best to get a really good amount of sleep and stay safe. Plus, pain can interrupt one's sleep, if so, try medication with sleeping aid. 

5) Positive emotions 

I'm sure everyone has been cranky in the morning because they're so exhausted. It's a sign of lack of sleep which can affect more if you don't consistently get the right amount of rest. Your day can be a whole better if you fulfill your heart with 8 hrs of sleep. 

6) Weight loss 

Controlling your weight is not only from eat and exercise, but the amount of sleep you get. Sleeping has been a guaranteed way to maintain your weight because those who don't sleep will feel lethargic and craving for fatty foods. Don't neglect this easy step. 

7) Thinking properly

Like your school suggests, having a good night's rest can promote you to thinking efficiently. I never believe my school when they say this, but they're right. Sleeping does wonder to your performance in academics. And your memorization will improve quicker. 

8) Beautiful & Shiny hair 

Hair is a delicate touch to us so taking really good care means getting the right amount of rest. This will promote shine and silkiness. Also, you will be less likely to have white hair. Try using a silk pillowcase to maintain the glossy hair without any frizz added. 

9) Happier looking eyes 

You know you didn't get a good night's rest when your eyes are looking tired and red. Throughout the day, your appearance may look unapproachable since eyes can be glaring. You don't want anyone to see you as a scary person so give your eyes a bit of rest to thank them. 

10) Happy life

Without sleep, we probably be dead by now. Everyone's a victim of taking sleep for granted. If you think about it, putting sleep off can disrupt our peace. We should all be glad that sleeping exist and care it like it was a precious gift. 

Thank you for understanding how sleeping is so beneficial. Be sure you grab your 8 hrs of sleep or more. The more, the better your life will be. 

XOXO 

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Don't overthink in life

Among the things we do or say aren't compared to what we think about. Everyday we constantly worry about some things that probably didn't matter. We often believe different outcomes that can ruin our life, but it's not as terrible as you think. 

Don't you ever come across words like "What if?" or "Should I?" Mainly in situations like careers, relationships, school, even life or death situations. Giving second guesses causes us to predict the worst case of scenario. But you know our head just messes up our emotions and we start to feel more anxious than usual. Stressing over little things won't make a big difference to your life because eventually they'll just be kept in the past. Instead of thinking beyond the future or going back into the past, live in the moment. You might be thinking, 

"Should I be with him?"

"What if I don't get this job?"

"Will we get marry?"

"Am I good enough?"

"Is this the right decision?"

"Should I go back to school?"

"How will the people react?"

"What if I didn't get accepted?"

"What if he doesn't like me?" 

"Should I let go of this chance?" 

And the list just goes on. But who cares about any of this. There's more important situations to be worrying about. Just go with flow because we're just one person with one brain so do as your heart is content. 

Now I'm not just saying that you shouldn't think about these matters, but you shouldn't "overthink" too much or else it'll affect you more. We don't have enough time to live in this world. We're born here to die, so use that precious time to go after what you want. Overthinking about everything you're stressing about is holding you back from all the other things you could be doing right now. And there's no need to look back into your past because there's no time for that either. How can you feel happy or be true to yourself if you don't move forward? If you're unable to get what you want then change it. You have the ability to make a choice because it's all up to you and your heart not your mind itself. 

Thank you guys for taking the time to read this post. I was kinda inspired to discuss this topic. If there's any life lessons you want me to discuss them do tell me in the comments. Because sharing is caring!

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Back-to-school: How to make Friends

Can't you believe summers coming to an end!? And more importantly, schools about to arrive so I decided to take this topic to help those who are about to start or just give advice in general. 

Making friends is really simple. All you need are good manners and a sense of right and wrong. These two are highly suggested because they'll take you to the right direction for yourself. 

When meeting people, always give off a good impression. If you don't, this could be a start of a new enemy and nobody wants that. A basic technique to start off is to smile. Showing someone a smile can brighten up anyone's day. So, take this opportunity to show off your beautiful grin and it will definitely lead you to the right direction. Be creative when greeting people. I know just saying hi and asking their name is the easiest way, but you don't have to do that. Find ways to introduce yourself like suggesting a game where each of you has to guess their name, offering them a nice gesture, or telling them a joke/riddle. Great way to build up your friendship and allowing them to learn about your personality. 

Okay, we know how to greet someone in a nice way, but let's talk about finding the right people. School is a place where most kids have all the drama and it doesn't even have to be at school. Our society is made up of dirty back-stabbers and friendly kindred spirits. So, you gotta distinguish these two. It can be hard choosing the right friends because there may be second thoughts. But the one thing you have to keep in mind is that if they bring you down and you feel uncomfortable around them then they are totally not the people you wanna stick with. Other signs to look for: 

Humiliate 

Shaming 

Criticize 

Hating 

Blaming 

Pressuring 

Demmanding 

Also, remember to check your feelings. If you feel less confident or unhappy then they should be out of your life. It's you first not your friends. 

Last thing I wanna share is how to be out of the circle. It can be hard leaving your friends because you may be having second thoughts like you'll feel lonely or they'll treat you as an enemy. And that's fine really. Excluding them out of your zone means more time for yourself. It sounds depressing, but it's a great way to catch up on things you miss like hobbies or studies. Once you've recollected yourself, this is a good time to meet newer people. Remembering what happen to your previous relationships can help you understand what to expect on the next one. Know that you don't have to be the #1 kind girl in the world. There will be so many haters out there, but if you have the right people by your side then it won't matter. Having one good friend is better than having hundreds of fake friends. 

I hope this post lets you learn something new about friendship. If you can relate to any of these or have experience something like this, do tell me. Because sharing is caring!

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Do you feel happy pleasing or fulfilling Someones expectations?

Having a kind heart means that you'll give more love than to receive it. To be honest, I was that kind of girl and in return, the outcome can be unexpected. I remember my sister would be telling me that I was retarded for being a people pleaser when really it makes me happy, but to her it wasn't. But there's actually two tricks that play when pleasing someone. 

The first one is you being a generous person. It's simple because you're the one who gives out appreciation. What that means is when you see someone in need, you'll be the first person to treat them with lots of love. It's not a bad thing, but be careful who they are. They can use your kindness to treat it as "free money". Some signs to consider when finding the ones who treat you this way: 

Money beggars 

Someone damages your property

Rude commenters 

Deceiving scammers 

Those that don't owe you back 

Be smart when choosing the people to give kindness. I know I've been there and I don't want you guys to experience what I had to go through. Plus, be sure it makes you happy. 

The second trick is when that person expected you to do a well-done job. I'm sure everyone has been through this kind and for me, it's the most I've ever gotten. Say for example, the boss wants you to repeat the same process with your next project because each one you've done was fantastic. But as it was completed, your boss was not too happy about it and expected more out of you. It's the worst feeling to my opinion. But why should our significant others be expecting a perfect job from us? Some people include:

Friends 

Families 

Colleagues 

Boss 

Boyfriend/Girlfriend 

I've talk with other people who had this experience and all have said that it makes them feel less than what they are. I believe this too because when someone comments about my work of trash, I feel less confident and pushes me to keep repeating that mistake. Really, I think that a perfect you doesn't exist because no mistakes wouldn't reflect how you conquer your future. We have so many flaws in our hands, but it doesn't mean we can't become better from this. Fulfilling their expectations makes them happy, but does it for you? So, do try your best and forget the rest because nobody understands you better than yourself. 

Thank you guys for taking your time reading this post. If you can relate to any of this, do comment below because sharing is caring. :D

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Body shaming is a no no

Hi you guys! So I really wanna talk about this topic because lately our society has been spot on the perfect beach body, big butt, thigh gaps, super skinny arms/legs, and being thick. And hearing about people's mean opinions on other women's figure is considered body shaming. 

Everyone's body is different. We have shapes that don't match someone's needs and that's fine. Their judgment don't matter at all to you. What's important is that you're beautiful and you stay beautiful. Simple, right? Well not for everyone. There are some who can be sensitive to opinions and some who aren't. Basically, words cut deeper than a sharp blade. Speaking about a girl's body in a bad way will only look bad for you. It shows that you wanna take credit for something you have than what the other person doesn't. Plus, your victim wouldn't feel as comfortable as she would've. I know it's the nature of people, but we need to focus on giving more positive energy aside from taking it away. 

Going through puberty, I wasn't really into looking good for my own body. I was mainly focused on keeping negativity away and being confident. But it changed by the time I enter high school where all the ladies dress with cleavage and showing some skin. There was this time when I went bra shopping and so, I ask a bra specialist from Victoria Secret to measure me. She said that I was a 32D and I went to try it on. The cups were fitted except the band size so I officially bought a 34D bra. Before, I never had measure my bra size until now because eyeing wasn't good since I wore a 36B cup for two years and it was super uncomfortable. But this new bra I had was easier to wear and didn't snug. The next day, I told my so-called friends about getting a new bra and they were not too happy about the sizing. They believe that my chest wasn't even big from appearance (since they never seen me wearing a tight fitted shirts and only bagging sweaters). The two kept laughing at me and said that maybe a B cup was a perfect match for me. I remember they were making a big commotion around the students and comparing their boob size from mine because it didn't look like theirs. I was so ashamed about my body from that point on. Not only did I lose my self-confidence, but I had to forget about them because they weren't the friends that make me happy. I tried looking up about bra sizing and most responses have said that it doesn't matter how big your bust is to fit the size as long as you're wearing the comfortable proper measurements. I believe it as well because numbers can't define who you are. I wish I could tell those girls about it, but they don't have time to give me respect. And all I can do is accept myself for the way I was born. 

No matter if you have or don't have that figure that everyone expects, as long as you feel good because nobody knows you the best. And we should do this world a favor by spreading positive energy to young girls because hey, a frowning face isn't pretty. 

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Be a friend to your enemy

We all have foes along our path and that's basically the nature of humans. There's no telling who will be your enemy unless they put you down in a shameful way. But in truth, you don't need to take in their poison because they can actually be encouragement. 

So, lots of us will find someone that bully you. It could be family, friends, coworkers, or strangers. And you may find it hard to understand why they're doing this. There are many reasons for someone to bully and it can make us feel less confident. I know that everyone tries to walk away or cause an abruption. But avoiding their foes or causing a scene isn't always necessary. A third option that people can try is to learn from their enemies. 

Okay, you're probably thinking, "What is there to learn from someone who doesn't respect me?" 

And yes that can be true for the most part. But whenever the person shoots you with a bunch of criticism or hateful comments then this is a good chance to turn it into encouragement. With encouragement, you can learn a lot from becoming a better person to working hard to prove they're wrong. Let's say someone believes you're not a good dancer. Instead of taking in their poison and keeping it, you can turn it as a friendly note to work extra hard to be a talented dancer. I've learn that this is called constructive criticism meaning that giving rude comments in a way it becomes inspiration. Believe it or not, throwing harsh comments about someone won't matter to that person because they can use it as improvement and it wouldn't matter to the bully since they're insecure. 

Running away or back stabbing your enemies wouldn't lift your confidence. Use their voice as inspiration because this will improve your skills, happiness, and confidence. Thank your enemies and appreciate the words of encouragement they give you. 

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